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I Only Said “Yes” To My Kids For A Week

I Only Said “Yes” To My Kids For A Week



one for dinner tonight big guy council spaghetti tacos ha why do you want that yeah yeah I guess we're making spaghetti tacos tonight I consider myself a gentle parent and if you don't know what a gentle parent is let me school you a little bit the three key points of gentle parenting are understanding empathy and respect letting your child kind of have autonomy over themselves and their lives while still being a parent but something that I've seen circulating in my little mom groups on Facebook is that gentle parents shouldn't say no I don't practice that because I think kids are gonna here know in their lives and so shielding them from that is silly so I wanted to try something for a week I wanted to try saying yes to my kids for a week so I did it and I learned a lot so first I had to set some ground rules because if not my house would probably have burned down first I did not let my kids know that I was doing this because if they had known that would have just been pure chaos so they had no idea that this is happening second there were some things that needed to still happen there are certain hygiene oriented things that need to happen health oriented things like you can't have cookies for every meal but beyond that I let things go and I said yes and we had some interesting results it is Saturday morning it is 6:45 in the morning both of my kids are awake usually I'd have them watch a little TV so I could get a little extra sleep but they both are hungry apparently starving to death and they want to go to breakfast so I'm going to get up and they're gonna go so we're going to get Jackson's haircut we're walking he wanted to ride his scooter for sure something I would say no to because I know my kids I know that we'll get there get his hair cut and then I'll end up lugging the scooter and his younger brother all the way home but I said yes we got there fine and lo and behold he rode his scooter the whole way back – that was a pleasant surprise and that was kind of my first realization of like well this might not be a bad thing so they both wanted chicken nuggets for dinner and they asked if we could sit and watch Adventure Time while we have dinner so the one thing that I was most nervous about in this whole experiment of saying yes was the food situation if you are a busy parent like me you know what it's like getting meals on the table it's really tough so I have this rotation of standard meals that I know work and so I don't deviate from it because you got something good you just just so when I started saying yes to them the orders got a little weird so I have some spaghetti I'm gonna attempt to put it in a hard taco shell because I feel like a soft one what soft spaghetti is gonna be like pretty weird do you like it yeah Jackson are you happy yes white are you happy yeah so I think this was the one thing that my kids cut onto during the week that I was being a little more flexible with what I learned from this whole week of them choosing their foods is that they're more likely to eat the entire plate if they've chosen what they're gonna have this kids on his third one oh my gosh look at you go Jackson and ultimately they'll get what they need nutrition wise just maybe in a really weird way so this week wasn't all rainbows and butterflies there were definitely some slip-ups and some things that I learned that I definitely should continue to say no to the kids really wanted Starbucks for breakfast so I said yes and we have a lot of errands to run today so I wanted to just drive there and drive straight from there to go do our stuff for the day but Jackson really really wanted to walk because he says he wants to get exercise it's about 85 degrees out right now and why it is insisting on being held so we're doing it big mistake it's 85 degrees Jackson's already tired of walking and so he's melting down why it's melting down I'm melting down it was a disaster and we ended up just going home never again there was one evening this week that I really stepped out of my comfort zone so the boys wanted to have a picnic at the park and play soccer for dinner today and it's a work night um so I normally wouldn't do this but it's really nice out it's a beautiful day and they're having a blast and we're having a good time are you guys having a good time yeah if you are a fellow working parent then you'll understand that at the end of the day it's just kind of like food PJ's teeth sleep but I said yes because I had to and it ended up being one of the most beautiful nights of the week for us as a family you know we packed the picnic they played with their soccer goal that could dust me to play soccer with them and I said yes because I had to and that's not something I typically do because I've never been good at sports and they didn't care that I was bad and they had a great time it was really eye-opening to me to realize that we can spend week nights doing quality family stuff instead of just reserving it all for the weekends because that's something I didn't think was possible before the best day ever so she scores on you so the culmination of this week of saying yes was really this one thing that my kids asked me for constantly and I knew it was coming but I was kind of dreading it because I didn't know how I would handle it this morning I was getting ready for work yeah Jackson was like I want to come I couldn't think of a reason why not are you guys excited why are you excited to go to BuzzFeed and I was terrified because kids are so unpredictable I've seen my two-year-old being a sweet perfect angel then I've seen him morph into a shrinking Banshee in the middle of the grocery store it ended up being so much fun but it was really cool first of all to have everyone I work with meet both of my kids and I was just really proud to have these two really well behaved sweet and polite and respectful kids at work with me that day it made me realize that they just really want to know more about me and what I do and they want to be around me and it just it made me feel like maybe I'm not doing such a terrible job I think part of it also had to do with we have this like chocolate covered raisin funnel that you just like twisted and they keep coming out and that might have been the whole reason why they were happy that day I don't know I'm just gonna say it's good to me so what did I learn from this whole week I learned first of all that I say no a lot of the time out of what I think is convenience but it ends of not being that much more difficult to say yes and it ends up being a lot more rewarding I've learned that there's a better work-life balance that I can achieve as a parent it doesn't have to be this like Monday through Friday is work and Saturday Sunday is kids and that has been such an important realization for me because that's something I struggle with every day being a working parent and I'm sure most of you working parents out there coming late and finally I realized I have good kids and I know that we all think our kids are the greatest like obviously my kids are the greatest but just having this week to relax and let them make the choices made me realize how genuinely great they are and how sweet they are smart they are and I also learned how to make spaghetti tacos and I also learned that I am never gonna make those again so that's all I got for today if you've tried this experiment or want to try it or you want me to try anything else in the future cuz I'm totally on a kick right now leave it in the comments or you can text me this is a real number I do read every single text I don't necessarily respond because I get a lot of them but I love to know what you guys want me to talk about or do in future episodes until next time I'm gonna try to take a bite of this spaghetti taco the one difficulty I'm running into is keeping miss spaghetti in the taco I'm messy and weird


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